When I first started putting out content, I really struggled with posting the end product. I wanted to offer value to people, and I was ok at producing it. But when it came to me actually putting it on the socials, I used to get hit with real anxiety about what might happen.
People might not like it. They might point out mistakes that I make. They might argue about the point I am making. They might call me out on information that they deem to be wrong. I was worried that other coaches would talk about it negatively and that people might think badly of me.
It wasn’t until I spoke with someone far wiser than me that I realised that the negativity that may be shown by others really has nothing to do with me. It has far more to do with how that person deals with their situations.
The behaviours that people exhibit are there for a reason - they get something from them. For some people, it may be being negative or putting other people down. They get to feel better from this behaviour. It may be that they get attention or that something is missing from their lives. So trying to bring other people down makes them feel better about what they are missing or unable to obtain.
Their negativity is a limitation on them, not on me.
As soon as I started to realise this, it made a huge difference. These people are just trying to make themselves feel better. Their behaviour says much more about where they are and how they are able to deal with what is going on in their lives and less about me and my ability.
So if you are one of the many people who worry about what other people think, or you are worried that others may say negative things to you, just remember that it has less to do with you, and more to do with their own limitations.
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